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When we ask about comparison women say the hardest thing to move on from is comparison to their past bodies.
And that makes sense, we create an identity for ourselves as we live our lives and a big part of that (sadly) is based around the way we look. So a couple decades later when we look different, it can feel very uncomfortable.
Who are we now if we aren’t the fit one, the thin one, the super healthy one, or even the one always trying to lose weight.
Even though these things really are so minor in WHO we are, we base a lot of our self worth/ identity around these things.
If we are constantly comparing our bodies to our past bodies, it’s almost impossible to find peace now.
So how do we deal with this?
One great tool is to create a mindset shift using a different aspect of your life from your past that has changed (when we focus on weight and body it can be hard to see clearly and it is a very emotional subject in our weight obsessed culture).
(Lauren shares her life as a past athlete)
(Jenna shares her life as a past model)
Yes, these times in our past had a lot of positives, we look back at them lovingly, but they are in the past and there’s no way to change that. Our lives are different now, we grew up, started families, found work we loved. A lot has changed and there are losses to that and things that we have gained.
It’s the same with our bodies – whether it was a time of restriction and it was really hard for you or whether your body has just naturally changed over the years, there are things you’ve lost and gained since then.
Grab your worksheet above so you can take note of these things and change the way you think about your past.
Start by choosing a time in your past that you tend to compare yourself to.
Take some notes on what you miss about that time – the things you feel you have feelings of loss around.
What do you have NOW in this present moment, that you feel you have GAINED since this time in your life?
So we know for sure that there have been things that we feel we have lost from our past but there are also many things we have gained (but we get that when you look at an old picture of yourself all you can think of is what’s changed in a negative way, in your eyes and not all the amazing things you’ve gained in life)….
Now dive a bit deeper into these things that you feel loss around – we don’t just want to leave it as a loss that can never be recovered:
The thing that we really feel loss around is the FEELING things give us, not the things themselves:
What is the FEELING that these things from your past gave you?
Relationships might be connectedness and love
Life before kids may have felt more carefree and relaxed
Being in a thinner body may have made you feel confident
Now that you have your list of feelings it’s time to brainstorm:
How can you get these feelings in your life NOW!
Yes, the past is the past and it won’t ever look the same, but the good feelings you feel you’ve lost can come back in new ways…
Don’t have close girlfriend relationships and want that feeling of love, community and closeness? Get out there and figure out how you can meet some.
Not feeling confident anymore? What can you do to boost this? Mindset work is vital in this but also some superficial stuff can help too, clothes you like on your body how it is now, doing your hair and makeup the way you like it, do things you’re good at and confident in…
Want feelings of being carefree and relaxed? What can you do, even in small ways to get this into your weekly routine? One night a week just for you to go to yoga and get tea at a coffee shop and read your favorite book?
Take action on this and let us know if seeing old pictures of yourself is as painful as it’s been in the past.
Yes, things might be different but they can be just as AMAZING!
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